Friday, October 24, 2008
Clarks: This Evening
So anyway, Wei Na had invited us over to her and her (still-single) mother's home for dinner. She also asked another female student, Fei Fei, to join us, and had her own boyfriend come over, too, after he got off work. So, once everyone was there and sat down, we had dinner (which was really great, by the way) and made small talk -- mostly in Chinese, actually -- and you know, just had a real nice time. Then, when dinner was over, we left straight-away for the beauty salon where Venus and Cecely were going to get their hair washed (which means not only a hair-washing but an upper body massage, too) and have their nails done. [Yes, our life here is full of toil and trial, isn't it?]
But that left the boyfriend and I (Fei Fei went home) to either sit in the salon looking dumb or get our own hair washed (also dumb) or... and here comes the interesting twist... go to the Starbucks we had passed a couple blocks back and have coffee and talk. Except, the boyfriend does NOT speak English! So this means, if we decide to go for coffee, we are essentially agreeing to an impromptu "blind (and mute) date"! He was like, “ 我不会说英语”that is, he can't speak English, as in, "What am I supposed to do with this foreigner?! Go sit there in silence and stare at him!?" But Wei Na insisted, "Jason can speak Chinese. Go on!" And so, we went.
Really, it was so much like an awkward first date... he even held the door open for me when we left the salon and again when we entered the coffee house! He also wanted me to sit down while he ordered and then insisted that he pay for both of us. So we found a nice, romantic... NO, WAIT A SECOND!... let's just say we found a table and sat down, very macho-like.
And then the most amazing thing happened: We carried on a conversation. A real conversation.
We discussed coffee culture -- the whole "third place" phenomenon, if you understand what that means. We discussed politics. We discussed religion, namely the major differences between Catholics (his grandma is one) and Protestants.
I shared my story of growing up mostly with a single-mom, and how one of my step-dads did drugs, and how it has influenced my younger brother, and how I had to help take care of him when I was only nine-years-old and he was just an infant, and how that -- when my brother turned nine, himself -- I looked back at my experience growing up and wondered, "How in the world was it that I was taking care of a baby at nine-years-old when Lance can't possibly take care of himself at this age now?!"
And of course, he listened intently and sympathized and said things like, "What a hard life; you were really forced to grow-up too quickly... but, you know, every family has its problems, and likewise, every country and every culture, too, has its weaknesses. Like, in China, parents never want to let their kids grow-up at all or have any freedom or learn to do things for themselves, so at least your experience gave you the opportunity to learn how to take care of yourself at an early age."
"But to tell you the truth," I continued, "I feel like I didn't really grow-up at all, until just recently. I mean, when Cec and I got married... we were 20 and 22 at the time... I thought I was grown-up, but really I was so immature. We had a lot of trouble at the beginning of our marriage because I wasn't really a true man yet. You know what I mean?"
"Well, it's that way with every marriage, though..."
"Yeah," I said, "of course, that's true; but really, sometimes I think, if we weren't both Christians... I feel certain we would have gotten divorced."
"No way, ba!" [If you speak Chinese, you'll get the "ba" thing, otherwise...]
"Really though," I insisted, "being a Christian has improved my life so much, and I truly believe our faith is what kept our marriage together through the tough times."
He was like, "Whoa, dude... that's deep."
[OK, maybe he didn't exactly say that, but...]
Anyway, it was really cool. I mean -- in the interest of full disclosure -- it didn't sound quite so elegant and moving in real-time: Think more like Tarzan in a counseling session with Sigmund Freud and you've probably got a more accurate representation of what it must have sounded like to him. But anyway, we did communicate. And for that, I am thankful.
We expect to spend time with them again, some weekend before long. And who knows what we'll talk about then. But I'm praying for the best.
Tuesday, October 21, 2008
Toddlers Group
Caleb also loves the playground downstairs in our neighborhood. There are always so many kids and moms and grandparents downstairs. Caleb won their hearts. We love our neighbors. They are so kind and friendly. We started a Thursday morning mom and toddler class. We met the first time last week. Josh teaches six toddlers B-songs while the moms talk. Last week, we did a self-introduction. I am hoping to share and discuss some books on raising children and discipline. Hopefully we can grow from there. We plan to develop another group on Saturday with dads and kids.
Clarks: Elaine
Anyway, this has been a major concern of ours, and we are thankful to have finally gotten something really started with these ladies. Keep thinking about this situation, if you will.
Clarks: Weekend Trip

So, we went out of town this weekend with Wei and her family. Wei ["Way"] is the mom; she takes yoga from Cec here at the house; she is also our landlady. Zhou ["Joe"] is the dad; he teaches and does computer tech service for a big university (same place that Wei teaches business, actually); he's nice but quiet, a loving and playful dad. Meng-meng [meaning, "Dream-dream"] is their 4-yr-old daughter; she is well-behaved and very clever; she really likes Cec & I a lot. 
The trip was billed as us going to somewhere called Huzhou (a lake resort town?) and seeing alligators, 1000-yr-old gingko trees, and... well, I can't remember what else; but, we never actually made it to Huzhou, instead spending our time in and around a dusty little town called Changxing.



I even had time to play a game of Chinese chess with Meng-meng: She had to remind me of some of the rules, and give me advice before I made any foolish moves. Still, despite her coaching, I lost. [Yes, I was mentally out-manuvered by a four-year-old.]
She was a kind winner, though, telling Cec that "we are pretty well matched; he plays on my level."
Monday, October 20, 2008
The blog!
Jenn
[P.S. from Jason: We can also read your comments now, so post comments directly if you like.]
Wednesday, October 15, 2008
Cooking in China
We only have an electric hot plate thing to cook on. It uses magnets to make ferrous metals hot...it is pretty cool technology if you are not trying to cook on it. The first pan I grabbed did not work (wrong kind of metal). Of course I did not realize it did not work until after I dumped the ham in it. So I got out another pan, but it immediately burned some of the ham! I took it off the eye and knew that I would need to clean the pan or else the omlettes would taste very burnt. About this time, Jon came home and suggested another pan, that was in the drawer. I forgot to look in the drawer...who keeps pans in drawers...oh they do in China. That pan worked better and I cooked the ham some and then moved on to the eggs....
I remember my mom and grandmother always telling me to crack open an egg in a separate container than your mix (or the other eggs). I almost forgot that advice....but it could have been worse...on egg number 5, I cracked it, but something seemed off...I noticed the smell and the green liquid about the same time. I am glad that none of the yuck landed in the other eggs. I am also very thankful that I did not open the egg all the way!! I can only imagine what I would have found. The smell was the worst part! I kept smelling it all night even way after I took out the garbage and scrubbed the kitchen.
Well like I said, it could have been worse. I started to cook the eggs, but the silly hot plate thing either gets very hot or not hot enough... finally they were cooked enough to add the ham and cheese. However, the omlette fell all apart. So I called it Topsy-turvy omlettes and the kids were excited. It was covered in cheese (a rare treat). The kids gobbled it up. Then I made one for Jon and me. It was ok, but I did have trouble getting it cooked all the way. I ate two bites, and it tasted fine, but I still smelled that other egg and had lost my appetite for eggs!
Everyone was still hungry, so when Jon went to class and took out the garbage, we got a snack at the cafeterria next door. I scrubbed the kitchen and washed the dishes, at least I could do that right!
Like I said, it could have been worse..at least we did have something to eat. I think tonight, we will go out to eat!
Tuesday, October 14, 2008
Clarks: Soon to Be on the Cover of Runner's World?
I'm thinking of starting a running program.
I need the exercise and, frankly, the weight loss and muscle toning.
I know, you all think I'm so skinny [at least, I hope that's what you think] but that's b/c you haven't seen me with my shirt off [lucky for both of us!].
So, I'm sitting here at the computer reading about running. I'm not running yet, mind you, but I am thinking about maybe running. Maybe even today.
There's gonna be a marathon here in HZ next month. That's what got me fired up about running. But the deadline for entry is at the end of this month, and the fee is pretty high, actually... and also, I've never in my life run even one mile without stopping.
Maybe I will buy some new running shoes. That seems to be important, according to all the websites I'm reading. Great sites, by the way. Physically fit, smiling, energetic people--all running along there, like it's so much fun! Looks like something I might enjoy.
Then again, I have the electric bike. And I just aired-up the tires yesterday.
Shame to waste that air.
Then again, I guess it will keep.
Maybe what I need is fresh air in my lungs. Gasping, panting, lapping it up. "Feel the burn. Be the road." Chariots of Fire. "Dum dum-dum da-dum dum..."
The weather is perfect for running. I can tell just by leaning back, away from the glowing monitor of the computer, and looking out the window--yep, perfect running weather, looks like.
So, here in minute, after I'm done typing, and maybe after I look at a couple more training regimens online, and do some side-by-side shoe comparisons, and maybe finish checking my e-mail... and then I need to hang out that laundry that just beeped... oh, cute! Moonbeam just jumped into my lap!... and I do need to finish my lesson plans for the week...
I don't know if I'm going to have time to go running today. Maybe tomorrow.
We'll just have to see what happens.
Wish me well.
(1 Cor. 9:24ff; Heb. 12:1ff)
[UPDATE: I did go running. And I enjoyed it.]
The kids actually enjoyed this trip. They are starting to take the attention in stride (or at least accept it as a part of life here). Liam enjoys it the least. They all handle it better if they are well rested and not hungry. They get lots of attention no matter where we go, but when we go to the lake or downtown it is worse.
Someone told me that this picture looks an exhibit at the local zoo....hmmm maybe.
Monday, October 13, 2008
Clarks: news of late
Anyway, news item two: We are planning to go with Wei (our landlady) and her family, and I think her best friend's family, too--both ladies are Cecely's yoga students here in the home yoga studio--and visit this nearby city called Huzhou where we will see rare crocodiles. I can't recall what all else is supposed to be there to see, but we'll take the camera and post some photos when we get back.
All else is well: It's so hard sometimes to think of what to say. I have all these things in mind, but then I get on the laptop and get to typing and spell-checking, and then answering the phone, then whatever... But, we'll keep you up to speed.
Jake and Shelley are coming in less than a month! We're looking fwd to that!
Well... OK...
J & C
Clarks: Thanks! [and updated wish list]
It is always a great treat to have a box arrive, so keep 'em coming!
To update our wish-list: We have plenty of the packaged things mentioned above. If you've already sent more, that's fine, but if you see this blog before you or someone you know sends something else, then you can know that we are already stocked-up.
Magazines, though, are always welcome b/c, you know, they're new every month. Cec has long subscribed to O, The Oprah Magazine, but she no longer has a subsc., so that would be a good treat for her. We both love Nat'l. Geo., DJ (if you don't know DJ, you can ask at LifeWay), CT (ditto, and I think my subsc. has finally expired to that one), Atlantic Monthly, Real Simple...
Anyway, other than that, we'd drink ground coffee. We'll burn scented candles. Cec will drink herbal teas. Uhm... You could even send a small block of cheddar cheese or a canister of dry Parmesan. [Yes, cheese does fine when it is unopened.]
The thing is, most of the things I just mentioned can, in fact, be found here, but they are expensive and not necessarily on every street corner, you know.
Well, so thanks again.
Oh, and did I ever mention... The mailman brings the packages directly to our door!
That may not sound like any big deal, but trust me, this kind of thing--this level of service--simply does not happen in China... ah, but in Hangzhou...
Wednesday, October 8, 2008
Gui Hua
O great choice! What is it? Sweet-scented osmanthus.
It is a small tree with hundreds of tiny cream colored flowers. Gui Hua smells wonderful. It just bloomed and is everywhere: in our apartment complex, at both the Clarcks and Hardins, at the bus stop, even the back street to the supermarket. The Gui Hua even overpowers the foul smells that come with 5 million close neighbors. We stick our noses right in a clump of flowers or stand back a few feet trying to find the most satisfying whiff. GaoYan says she will make rice balls with sundried GuiHua and sugar inside. Our windows are open at night because the aroma makes it up to our fourth floor apartment. I lie in bed thinking, "This is what life should smell like."
II Corinthinans 2:14-16 reminds and encourages us with the power of our aroma and fragrance leading our neighbors to know Him.
Clarks: I've stalled long enough
It seems like forever since I last wrote something. In fact, I know it's been quite a while b/c last time I was complaining about the heat and seemingly-endless days of summer. Now though, it's been nice fall weather for, like, a couple weeks or so!
So why the delay?
Well, I was waiting for Cec to write something; that's the main reason. And then, even after she'd written, there's just been so much going on. It's like, I have this great story to tell, but before I have a chance to sit down and type it out, another story unfolds right before our eyes, so then I'm too busy to write, plus I've got this other story, then before you know it...
For example: the story about how we met those people Cecely mentioned (who the guy likes music a lot and the lady studies yoga)... great story, full of irony and providencial turns of event, with a funny and surprising plot twist mid-way through...
But who has time to tell about it when the next day your out riding the electric bike and lose power miles from home, having to push all the way back -- b/c also... (not that you've mentioned it, not having time to write anything) ...the chain is broken and missing, lost somewhere between Elaine's house and home -- ?
And even if, after getting home exhausted from pushing this 50-lb. bike about as far as, say, from the old building on Cloverdale all the way to the new CC building... I say, even if I had the strength and willpower to sit and the computer and re-tell the saga in all its glorious and (to be sure) humourous detail... I would not have been able to do so b/c, by that time, the cat had come down with a raging case of "feline infectous rhinotracheale" and had to be rushed to the vet for an intense round of examinations, including but not limited to stool and blood tests, stethoscopic observation, followed by 5 days of injections and oral antibiotic treatments.
So you can see, I haven't been slacking off, just busy.
And besides, most of my computer time is spent on ChinesePod.com learning and reviewing several Chinese language and culture lessons per day. I think I have something like 120+ new vocabulary flashcards in the current rotation.
That, and following the presidential race.
And wishing I could watch the new season of The Office.
But alas...
Saturday, October 4, 2008
Friday, October 3, 2008
Clarks: Early October
I'm sitting here eating salted plums and Dove dark chocolate and drinking jasmine tea. A delicious late evening snack! Life in China is full and busy, very satisfying, but can be stressful at times. I just read Josh and Jen's last blog entries, and while reading Jen's I couldn't agree with her more about the Christmas deal. Do please lift us all up as we deal with this. We want to do it correctly in a way that would be right for a follower, and we definitely do want to try at least to get the policy changed. So I echo that you could please keep us in your petitions about that. Also, please keep our future placement in mind, and that we will all make wise decisions about who teaches and doesn't teach in the future, as I think each couple on the team considers that issue.
As for the work, we are indeed being blessed and led. We have been guided to a salon where many of the workers already have some knowledge or belief in j.c. So, some groundwork is already laid, they (some of them) would, though, need to answer his call and become more active and serious, which are huge changes indeed, and will only happen if this is truly His will. There is a lady there, Lorna, who has a really colorful background, and belongs to an ethnic minority. She is a single mom who never graduated from elem school. She is probably about our age or a little younger. She has a sweet spirit and we are developing a fledgling friendship, just as we are with another girl there and a couple of guys. So, please be thinking about that whole situation in the coming days. In addition to the salon, please also keep in mind the place where we live, the apartment complex that is. I am teaching Chris'ian yoga to a couple of ladies who come over twice a week. Please pr-y that the words I share will take root and cause curiousity and good questions to emerge. We also met a family while out on our walk last night, and the man has a passion for music, and the lady for yoga. They would like us to go sing karaoke with them sometime, and she would like me to attend classes at the yoga studio where she goes. So please keep those new relationships in mind. And, I have an idea in my mind about the teahouse that is on our school campus, as well. Please keep the ladies in mind who work there. The teahouse would be a wonderfully strategic location on that campus if we would one day turn out to have sisters who work there, if you know what I mean. Also, please keep us in mind as we deal with our students and colleagues, so that we will have discernment of who may be stable, local, and influential, in addition to curious and hungering for him.